A way to interpret dreams

A way to interpret dreams

After knowing the principles of whether dream interpretation is correct or not, talk about four ways to interpret dreams:

This method is suitable for simple dreams, and the symbol of the dream is understood by itself, and it is easy for you to know the meaning of the symbol in the dream, and you can interpret the dream in a simple way. Tell the dreamer exactly what you understand the meaning of the dream, ask him if he is correct, and verify your interpretation. If yes, the interpretation is initially completed; if no, it is reinterpreted.

For example, an old woman in her fifties told of her dream: 'I dreamed of a pain in my abdomen, and then I found a switch button in my waist. Once you close the twist on your waist, the abdominal pain goes away.'

People with life experience or life experience know the meaning of this dream, but this meaning does not match her age, and later the old woman explains that she did it more than twenty years ago, then the dream interpreter can give her a point: 'This dream at that time indicates the arrival of her menopause, and she will menopause.'

For another example:

There was a little girl, when she was a child, she dreamed that a man had a stone-shaped head, and hit her head with a stone head, smashing her head into a pit, and later her head became stone-shaped.

This dream is also relatively simple, the stone head symbolizes the stubborn, hard and cold and heartless character, smashing the head indicates harm. The dream means that when she was a child, there was a person who was stubborn and cold, and this person often hurt her. Her own character was hardened and cold by this constant injury. When using the straightforward steps of dream interpretation, you can add some reasonable inferences based on your knowledge of the dreamer, such as the above dream interpretation:

One of her family members, probably her father or mother, is a stubborn, cold person. She was often either reprimanded or scolded, so she felt very painful, and she had to let herself become cold and numb

Wood, it's like turning a flesh head into a stone head. Then she found herself one of those stubborn and cold people. This character still deeply affects her, making her feel that life is not happy, it is difficult for her to establish intimate relationships with others, and friendships and love are not smooth. In her heart, she attributed all this to her childhood experience, to her parents (since she remembers the dream to this day, it still has an effect on her). The specific effects can be inferred from psychological knowledge).

If the facts are verified and absolutely correct, the little girl will definitely accept your explanation.

The advantages of straightforward dream interpretation are:

It makes the dreamer believe the interpreter. The dreamer only speaks a short dream, and the experienced interpreter may tell his current psychology, current living conditions, childhood experiences, marital status, personality, and so on. This will surprise the dreamer and convince the interpreter. In this way, the interpreter's further analysis of the dreamer's psychology and the interpreter's suggestions are easily accepted by the dreamer.

We know that dreams do have meaning, but some people do not think so, a middle-aged man did not think so, he said: 'Dream.

What's the point? I said a dream to see how you can understand my psychology?'

'Once, I dreamed that a leader came to my home and asked my child to buy two bowls of noodles. Let's eat and talk. He also analyzed the economic situation for me.' When the interpreter asked him, when did you have this dream? He said not long ago.

This can be analyzed in a straightforward way. The interpreter said, 'This dream is briefly called the Way of peace and Happiness. On the one hand, you are concerned about your current social status. The financial situation is not satisfactory (buying two bowls of noodles for guests), on the other hand, he has high self-expectations (leaders come to him). Your wife is very unhappy with you, thinks you are too ambitious, and has probably left you (this is the interpretation of the dream). Moreover, you shape your child according to your requirements, not caring about his needs and wishes to let the child go. But when you buy only two bowls of noodles, you think you're not in a lot of pain because you can always find a way to deal with it.'

This statement apparently worked for him, and after the meeting he said to the interpreter: 'Actually, I am also very miserable, and I have no career or family.'

Another advantage is that it can break through the psychological defenses of the dreamer. Many people are very secretive about the psychological conflicts and contradictions in their hearts, and try to hide them from others. And sometimes without uncovering these inner secrets, his psychological conflicts cannot

Fix. In this case, if those who know dream interpretation and psychological counseling use the one-word method, they can break through the concealment of the dreamer and explain the problem in his heart. On the other hand, if the interpreter's process is slow, if the interpreter interprets a little bit of the dream and asks the dreamer if it is right, the dreamer has the opportunity to build a defense so that what is in his heart is not revealed. This is like the interrogator in the interrogation of the prisoner, the key evidence suddenly out, so that the prisoner is caught off guard when exposed. If the interrogator pulls out the evidence piece by piece, the prisoner has time to fabricate lies. In psychological terms, the one-word approach is conducive to breaking through the obstruction of the dreamer.

Human psychological conflicts, psychological problems, are mostly ineffective efforts to solve some kind of suffering. For example: a patient forced to wash his hands, in his subconscious mind, repeated washing can be washed away. 'I have had an impulse or behavior that I should not have done,' but in his consciousness, he can make a seemingly logical explanation for his forced hand washing, the most common explanation is fear of dirt and fear of residual bacteria on his hands.

In order not to touch the source of the pain, the subconscious mind sets up heavy defenses to keep the conscious mind from touching the pain. There is a patient with obsessive-compulsive disorder, his compulsive symptom is to wash hands repeatedly, 'to wash what, to wash clean' is this

The meaning of compulsive behavior. In consciousness, his idea is to wash the dirty things off his hands, and he does not think that the dirty things will be completely washed away easily. But the reason why this act becomes a compulsion is that, subconsciously, he has something (an idea or experience or desire) that he wants to get rid of. And this thing that the subconscious is trying to get rid of is the cause of the disease.

However, obsessive-compulsive disorder has a very tight logical chain and even a system. This logical chain or system of his is like a team of quick-acting defensive masters, and every attempt to explore the crux of the problem in psychotherapy has to be thwarted. So it's very difficult to treat OCD. Dream interpreters at such times, dream and dream analysis, if can go directly to the root of the problem. That can avoid the back-and-forth and stalemate of the treatment.

In the dreamer's subconscious mind, what is it that needs to be cleared? In a talk therapy session. One of his dreams tells the interpreter the answer:

'My home is on the stairs of the middle school building. I was with a foreigner, and I caught him stealing my notebook, and I realized he might be a spy, and he looked very smug and said, 'You're finished,' and it was like he stole my digital camera. I was scared, thinking that the chief of police, the chief of police was like my mother, was going to be detained

Me. If I'm locked up, I'll be isolated, because nobody wants to talk to people who are locked up. Later, I was playing with a female classmate on a bridge, and she seemed to dislike me and pushed me off. I found myself not in the river, but in a deep, wet hole, and a lot of rats were running around and biting me.'

After making one or two simple associations, the interpreter gave a straightforward explanation of his dream:

'You had gay sex in middle school, but at that time you were passive participants. You are scared and intimidated by this behavior. I wonder if there's something wrong with me that's causing this to happen. You think women including your mother will hate you for it. And you're stuck in homosexual behavior.'

His face was very red, and he rubbed his hands repeatedly, as if he were trying to rub something off. Slowly he looked up, his eyes full of sorrow. 'Can I be saved?' 'he asked eagerly.

Getting to the heart of the problem through a dream can make psychological counseling go more smoothly. However, this method also has disadvantages: dream interpreters need to have rich dream interpretation experience and psychological counseling experience, if the dream interpreters lack of experience, it will be easy to make wrong inferences, so that the dreamer does not trust the ability of the dream interpreters. Again, if the interpreter makes a mistake

Explanation, and the wrong explanation makes sense. The dreamer may believe this false explanation, but the true meaning of the dream is not explained.

And our so-called experience is just some generalized laws, not every fresh, vivid dream example will conform to the experience of the dream interpreter, and the interpretation of the dream interpreter sometimes has its own projection, and the dream interpreter who is sexually repressed is more inclined to interpret a dream as a sexual dream. We know that Freud himself has interpreted countless dream cases in his life, and his experience is not small. But he tried to give the dreamer as much free association as possible to ensure that his interpretation of the dream was correct. Otherwise, a crude statement will only mislead the dreamer and mislead the dreamer himself.

Some people who just learn to interpret dreams are often hasty and arbitrary, and look at the following example of Xiao Li made such a mistake

1 day:

Xiao Li did not learn to interpret dreams for a long time, and because of his high understanding, he made rapid progress. One day, a friend of hers came to see her. 'Have you had any dreams lately? Let me give you an analysis?' Xiao Li said very actively.

Xiao Li's friend told her this dream:

'I was sleeping in bed with a classmate from primary school, and I found the girl so beautiful and attractive that I couldn't stop kissing her.'

Listening to this, Xiao Li thought she understood the meaning of the dream, so she hurriedly said the answer. 'From this dream, you have obvious homosexual tendencies.' Xiao Li said with great certainty.

Xiao Li's friend was shocked. This analysis is touching a raw nerve. It turned out that Xiao Li's friend, Xiao D, had been married for two years, and her relationship with her husband had been bad, especially in the sexual relationship. The reason is that Little D's husband thinks she is not feminine, and she has always felt more happy with the same sex.

'Maybe I really do have homosexual tendencies and I don't know it. That's why I don't get along well with my husband and the opposite sex, and why I prefer to be with my same-sex friends.' Little D agrees with this explanation and presupposes the conclusion of the dream to explain his own life.

It was not long before Little D began to pay serious attention to reports about homosexuality, to ponder the phenomenon of homosexuality, and deliberately to pay attention to the channels of entry into gay circles.

At the time, Little D's emotional life was in trouble, and the instinct to get out of trouble caused Little D to seize on whatever seemed to her to be a solution

The path of the problem. So 'I have the self-identification of gay tendencies' is like a psychological suggestion, and will walk out of the current psychological dilemma with little D, but the real problem is not solved, just from one dilemma to another.

Little D found a famous dream interpreter with 'the confusion of whether I am gay or not'. The master of dream interpretation, through free association with her dream, and analysis of her psychological tests, knew that she had no homosexual tendencies. The real meaning of her dream is that I don't feel feminine enough, and she wishes she could be more feminine. The classmate in the dream, by small D free association, is a very feminine, gentle, and very popular with the opposite sex. In this dream, Little D wishes he was just like her. The characters that appear in the dream are part of the dreamer's own personality, but this part is repressed and therefore does not always show itself in the dreamer's personality. Therefore, little D dreamed of the rich feminine classmate, indicating that there is a very feminine side in her personality, but this side has been in a repressed position. And the meaning of this dream is that the primitive man tells little D to integrate with this side of his personality.

Dream interpreters are often able to justify themselves, only by 'one word' obviously can not achieve this effect, they have other methods, so that it is often conducive to avoid the embarrassment of being worn out on the spot.

Sometimes a complex dream can be a straightforward one. For example, if you are very familiar with the life, personality, and experience of the dreamer, or if you interpret your own dream, then even if the dream is very complicated, you can still use a simple expression. Consider the following example: A young man did not know much about the symbols of dreams, but he did a good job of analyzing one of his more complex dreams.

'I'm sitting in a subway train, and the subway is speeding. I suddenly found that I did not have enough money with me, only 50 cents, so I was worried about how to solve the problem of buying tickets. Suddenly I saw a classmate in this carriage, and greeted him, he said, 'I only have 50 cents!' I had to stand by helplessly. When the first stop arrived, someone shouted: 'XX team, get off! The passengers in the carriage got down quite a lot. Then I looked through the window and saw a Guangzhou bus on the station. (The student is from Guangzhou), like waiting to pick someone up. The train continued to drive, at this time the classmate brought a stack of various tickets, tore off two of them to me, and walked away. I wonder where I got this ticket. A stewardess came to check the tickets, examined them, and took them away. After a while, she arrived with two tall men, who immediately surrounded me while the woman guarded the door. Soon my stop came, and I couldn't get off...'

Since it was his dream, the young man made an analysis without much effort: 'in the speeding subway' means in

Study and life in Beijing, because the subway is very common in Beijing.

'Did not bring enough money', means that the physical quality is not enough, can not pass the physical education exam, difficult to successfully graduate from university

Karma.

'XX classmate also didn't bring enough money, just like me, only Pentagon.' XX students are often failed in sports, here is a symbol of failing in sports. 'Only 50 cents' means only 50 points.

'First station, bus on board' was not analyzed. 'The classmate brought a fake ticket', the classmate had talked with the dreamer about looking for an imposter to take the physical education exam for him.

'After the fake ticket was discovered, two tall men surrounded me and a woman guarded the door, making it impossible for me to get off the train at the destination station.'

The tall man symbolizes the physical education teacher, 'surround me' symbolizes not let go, 'the woman holds the door', in the impression that the school is a female teacher in charge of student administration, cheating in the exam is a teacher in charge of administration, can not graduate. Unable to leave the university, namely this subway. This is a good dream interpretation.

Sometimes, when you have a general understanding of the meaning of a complex dream, but some details are unclear, you can use intuition to interpret the dream.

A boy dreamed: 'My father and mother were sent to a mental hospital, and my brother sent them there.' Dad unlocked the car and ran away with Mom and me.'

'To send them to a mental hospital' means to treat them like crazy. To open a car lock means to free itself, and to 'escape' means to get rid of it secretly. But, as a general rule, his brother is unlikely to imprison his parents as mental patients, and her parents would not have to sneak away to escape his brother's manipulations. From the experience of dream interpreters, who often use their parents to represent themselves and their friends of the opposite sex, it can be inferred that the boy now has a girlfriend, and he is very fond of her, even in the view of his brother and so on, 'crazy' fond of her. It is estimated that his brother is conservative, serious, and a strong sense of authority, and the dreamer is afraid of him. The Dreamer secretly opened his own imprisonment and escaped the restrictions with the girl. Maybe he was having sex with his girlfriend in private.

The boy was surprised when the interpreter gave his explanation, because he had never told anyone about his girlfriend, Lien

Neither does the dreamer. Surprised, he explained details that the dream-interpreters did not know.

Sometimes, as long as you refer to the part you understand intuitively, the dreamer will suddenly realize that he can almost understand the meaning of all dreams, there is a man told him a dream: 'Dream XX died, wrapped in a white cloth.' Suddenly one of his hands went up and I saw it was my wife...' The interpreter did not understand the meaning of the dream. So he just made a general 'comment' : 'Don't worry, this is not a bad omen.' This is a dream about the values of you and your wife on some issues, XX represents an old value, an old value died, so your wife resurrected, unexpectedly the man replied: 'I understand, I know exactly what the dream is saying, you don't have to release.'

2. Layer by layer method of dream interpretation Layer by layer method of dream interpretation is to proceed in the order of the dream, either from the most striking part of the dream, or from any part; Sometimes the dreamer is most impressed with a certain part and can start with this part. Sometimes a certain part is easier to break through, and you can start with that part.

Generally speaking, layers of stripping bamboo shoots is a safer and more reliable way, and it is not easy to make mistakes, because this way is to collect all kinds of evidence before concluding. This point is not like a statement, only from a few details

Come to many conclusions.

So layer by layer stripping bamboo shoots does not have that dramatic effect. Sometimes the dreamer understands the meaning of the dream long before the interpreter comes to a conclusion. This is sometimes a good thing, for the dreamer himself draws a conclusion, which he believes all the more, and which helps him to understand himself better. But sometimes this is not a good thing, if the dreamer is afraid that others will understand him, he will stop talking about the dream at such times, in order to prevent the interpreter from understanding him.

The step of layer stripping bamboo shoots is: divide the dream into some parts, explain and verify some parts, understand the background material while explaining, and let the dreamer associate while explaining. Applying this method to dream interpretation, the whole process of dream interpretation is the process of the interpreter cooperating to find the meaning of the dream.

The layer stripping method is best for analyzing dreams that are difficult to understand.

A 28-year-old lawyer told a psychologist about a dream he had: 'I saw myself in an Audi reviewing a group of soldiers. They all cheered and saluted me wildly, 'and the analyst asked,' What do you think that means?'

The lawyer replied, 'It's pointless, because I hate war and the army, and I don't like being a general, and I don't like being the center of attention, being stared at, cheered or not cheered by thousands of soldiers.' You know from what I have told you about professional difficulties how difficult it is for me to stand in front of a court and argue a case.'

Psychoanalyst: 'Yes, this is true, but it does not negate the fact that it is your dream, the plot you wrote and the dream in which you yourself play a part.' No matter how obvious the contradiction, this dream must have some meaning and must mean something. Now tell me what you think about when you dream about Audi cars and armies cheering.'

'It's funny, I see a picture now that I loved when I was 14 or 15. It's a portrait of Napoleon. He rode on a white horse and relaxed in front of the army. It was very similar to a dream, only the army did not cheer him.'

'It's a funny memory. Tell me more about my love for the painting and my interest in Napoleon.' The lawyer recalls that when he was fourteen or fifteen years old, he was shy and weak, afraid of a boy, whom he liked very much, and invited to his house microscope, but was rudely and contemptuously refused. He was angry and thoughtful, and from then on he read books about Napoleon fanatically, collected Napoleon's paintings, and fantasized about being Napoleon himself. Until I got to college

To overcome hero worship and fantasy.

The psychoanalyst says, 'You forget it, but the other you, the one who determines so much of your behavior and feelings, and who hides so well when awake during the day, still wants to be famous, wants to be praised, wants to have power, the other you spoke in a dream last night.' But why did you have this dream last night, and what was so important yesterday?'

'Nothing, nothing. I go to the office to work, do some research, have dinner, watch a movie, and go to bed.'

'It doesn't explain why you're riding in an Audi at night. Please tell me more details, like what you do at the office.'

'Oh, I remember... But it can't have anything to do with dreams. ... All right, let me tell you more. When I went to see my boss, who is the majority shareholder of the law firm, and I was collecting legal information for him, he found that I had made some mistakes. He looked at me sternly and said, 'I'm really surprised, I thought you could do better than that.' I was shocked at that moment, and at the same time a thought crossed my mind that I did not want to be dismissed, thinking that he would not keep me

Yes. But I told myself it was just wishful thinking. Anyone can make a mistake. I had forgotten about it that afternoon.'

'How did you feel afterwards? Are you feeling upset or a little frustrated?'

'No, not at all. Instead, I'm just tired and sleepy. I find my work very demanding and feel happy when I leave the office and come to confession.'

'Then the last thing that matters is going to the movies.

'Yes, I enjoyed it. In fact, I cried.'

'Why are you crying?'

'First, for the poverty and suffering of the main character in the film, and then for his victory. I can't remember ever seeing a film that moved me so much.'

'Then you go to bed and sleep. And seeing yourself in an Audi, being cheered on by the army. You had this dream because you were shy, shy, and unpopular as a child. It can be inferred from previous clinical experience

This is largely due to the influence of your father, who prides himself on his success but is so detached from you, unemotional, and unencouraging. That thing you mentioned today, being rejected by a boy, was just far-fetched. Your self-esteem was already deeply wounded, and this episode only added fuel to the fire, making you more certain that you would never achieve what your father did, that you would never amount to anything, that you would always be rejected by those you admired. What can you do? You have to escape into fantasy, where you dream of achieving something you think you can't achieve in real life. In that fantasy world, no one can enter, and no one can deny that you are Napoleon, the great hero, for thousands of people and for yourself, which is perhaps the most important thing - the approval and respect of the screen. As long as you can retain these illusions, you can avoid the suffering that comes from your feelings of inferiority when you come into contact with an external reality other than yourself. And then you went to college. You begin to depend less on your father, and feel somewhat satisfied with your studies, feel that you can start again and have a better foundation, and then you feel ashamed of your 'childish' dreams, so you stop dreaming; Thought you were on your way to becoming a man... However, as we have seen, this new confidence exists of a somewhat self-deceptive nature. You're terrified before every test. You think that as long as there are other men in the world, no girl really cares about you, you never

Far from afraid of the boss's criticism. Let's take another look at the day of your dream. Something you've been trying to avoid has happened again -- your boss blames you. You begin to feel that old feeling of being inferior again, but you set it aside. Instead of feeling upset and depressed, you feel tired. And then you see a movie, and it touches on your old dream that the hero on the screen was a young man who was looked down upon and did nothing, and then became a national savior who could be praised and admired, and you see yourself as that hero who was admired and celebrated, just as you had dreamed of when you were young.'

After a spring-down analysis, the lawyer finally realized that he had not really given up his previous retreat into the glory fantasy, that he had not burned the bridge that had led him back into the fantasy kingdom, but had begun to retreat to the fantasy whenever the reality was disappointing and terrifying. But instead of understanding this fact in himself, there is the danger that he so much fears, that he will remain naive, that he will not mature, that he will not be able to receive adults and his new man.

3. The mixed method of dream interpretation is the straight-talking method and the layer peeling bamboo shoot method, which are the two extremes, and the dream interpreters use the mixed method of these two methods more in the actual interpretation of dreams. That is to say, the interpreter interprets the meaning of certain parts of the dream, so as to enlighten the dreamer and let the dreamer speak about the relevant events, thoughts, etc. Then the dreamer takes that as the basis for another explanation

Part, or let the dreamer figure out the meaning of another part by himself through association.

A girl had this dream: 'I was on the subway with my mother and sister, and when I got off the train, there were two roads. One leads to an arch with a security door behind which there seem to be green leaves, and the other leads to the railway station...'

Dream interpreter analysis: 'Taking the subway here symbolizes your life with your mother and sister.' When you get out of the car, there are two roads that indicate the life choices you now face. The two paths in your dream represent the two paths in your life. The first road has arches, security doors, and green leaves. The security door symbolizes the obstacle, indicating that there are obstacles on the road, so in your actual life, which road does this refer to?'

'I want to point out the road of the country, the security door said it is difficult to go abroad, the arch reminds me of the airport, as for the green leaves, I remember my father said after going abroad that the green is very good, shoes can not wipe for a week is still very bright, give me a deep impression.'

'So the station means in the country? Because taking the train is common in China.'

'Yes, we went to the train station... And then I came to a place, like a hotel lobby. We ate at the table. Eat salted peanuts. My boyfriend eats chicken wings and greens. Sister changed the plate of peanuts, a little bigger, but on the tablecloth do not need to eat plate, there are two girls want to change peanuts people do not give change, they also want to change feel dirty did not change. ...'

Dream interpreters say, 'The food you eat represents the standard of living.' Salted peanuts represent a lower standard of living. Your boyfriend can bring you a higher standard of living, chicken wings and vegetables...'

'It's not very high. In my dreams, I dream that someone is drinking, which means a higher standard of living.'

'Yes, your sister wants to change partners, but you think it's just a bigger plate of peanuts; Of course, some people can't change it if they want to! But you still feel that you don't want to do something like changing a better boyfriend because it's 'dirty,' which means it's against your moral standards.'

The girl finally admitted, 'It's true...' ...

In fact, dream interpretation depends on flexible application, rather than sticking to a certain way. When used well, the actual interpretation of dreams does not require the mind to think in any way. You can change the dream interpretation procedure at any time according to the situation.